For many couples, anal sex is the last frontier. We could make all sorts of puns but we’ll resist the urge and just say this sexual activity is considered taboo by some yet intrigues most. Despite what you might have heard, trying anal sex doesn’t have to be painful or unpleasant. In fact, it can make for a new go-to option when you find yourself in the mood.
When Trying Anal Sex for the First Time…
Get in the right mindset. You need to want to do this if you have any hopes of it being enjoyable. Don’t let anyone, your partner included, coerce you into trying anal sex if you truly don’t want to. That being said, if you really do want to give it a try, relax as much as possible. Practice deep breathing and enjoy massage together before attempting penetration.
Speak up. You need to be vocal when attempting anal, not just the first time, but every time. You see, the tissues down there are very sensitive and can tear very easily. You don’t want to deal with that. So, if something hurts, say so. You can always slow down and approach things more delicately.
Use lube. The rectum doesn’t produce its own lubrication so make sure to load up on the stuff before insertion. Even if you’re just experimenting with inserting fingers, you should still use lube. A water-based lubricant is best because it washes off the easiest and is compatible with condoms.
Use a condom. Yes, you should totally use condoms when trying anal sex. This protects both partners from infection. If you decide to switch to vaginal intercourse part way through, be sure to put on a new condom to prevent the possible spread of bacteria into the vagina.
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