Taking Charge of Your Sex Life
One of the first things you can do is change positions. If you are always on the bottom during sex, try getting on top or performing a different position that allows you to take more control of the situation. Side-lying is also good because you share the effort a bit more evenly. You can talk about what new positions you’d like to try with your partner or just suggest it in the middle of the fun.
Even if you are on the bottom though, that’s no reason to lie there like a lump! You can move, you know. Raise your hips to meet each thrust. Wrap your legs around your partner and nudge his behind with your heels. Wrap your arms around him and pull him closer. Scratch your nails across his back. Get creative!
You can also reach down and play with his testicles. Or, touch yourself to add a little bit more visual stimulation for him and physical stimulation for you. Many women can’t reach orgasm without clitoral stimulation so this can definitely serves a dual purpose.
Another fun thing to do is if your partner is used to you being on the bottom then surprise them by switching positions in the middle of sex. Take control of the situation. It’ll be unexpected and appreciated.
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