Tell Me What You Want

Tell Me What You Want

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Social psychologist Justin Lehmiller surveyed thousands of Americans about their sexual fantasies, and this book is the map of what he found

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Social psychologist Justin Lehmiller surveyed thousands of Americans about their sexual fantasies, and this book is the map of what he found. It's a rare, judgment-free look at what people actually desire — the common threads, the surprising patterns, and what our fantasies reveal about our needs rather than our flaws. Lehmiller writes as a careful researcher, not a provocateur, which makes the material both reassuring and genuinely interesting: chances are your private wishes are far more common than you think. Best for anyone curious about the inner life of desire, and couples ready to talk about theirs.

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