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Mind the Gap

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Clinical psychologist Karen Gurney takes on the desire gap with British directness and a clinician's grasp of the evidence

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Clinical psychologist Karen Gurney takes on the desire gap with British directness and a clinician's grasp of the evidence. Her argument is that most of what we believe about libido — that it should be spontaneous, constant, and effortless — actively undermines real couples. Instead she lays out how desire genuinely works, why it changes in long relationships, and what partners can do about a mismatch without anyone being labeled the problem. Practical, myth-busting, and reassuring, it's a modern handbook for the couple who still love each other but can't seem to find each other in bed.

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