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The State of Affairs

HarperCollins Publishers

Esther Perel turns her attention to infidelity — the subject couples most dread and least understand

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Esther Perel turns her attention to infidelity — the subject couples most dread and least understand. Rather than reducing affairs to simple betrayal, she explores what they reveal about longing, identity, and the impossible expectations we place on modern marriage, without ever excusing the pain they cause. It's a nuanced, compassionate, sometimes uncomfortable book that treats a taboo as worthy of real thought. Best for anyone navigating betrayal, rebuilding after one, or simply trying to understand why affairs happen even in good relationships. Provocative and humane in equal measure, it refuses easy answers in favor of honest ones.

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