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Come As You Are

Simon & Schuster
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Curated by Alexander Institute since 1997.
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The story

Emily Nagoski's modern classic reframes the question many women have quietly asked themselves: am I normal? Her answer, grounded in the science of arousal, is almost always yes. She builds the book around the dual-control model — the idea that desire runs on both an accelerator and a set of brakes — and shows why context, stress, and what she calls responsive desire matter far more than any imagined "low libido." Warm, rigorous, and genuinely freeing, this is the one we'd hand to anyone who suspects their body came with the wrong manual. Best for women rethinking desire, and the partners who want to understand it.

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