Mating in Captivity

Mating in Captivity

Harper Paperbacks
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Esther Perel's breakout book asks the question at the heart of every long relationship: can desire survive domesticity? Her answer is bracing and elegant — the very things that make love secure, like closeness, familiarity, and comfort, are often the same things that dampen eroticism, which thrives on distance, mystery, and play. Rather than offer tidy fixes, she reframes the tension as something to be managed rather than solved, and writes about it with rare sophistication. A modern classic that changed how couples talk about passion. Best for long-term partners who love each other deeply and quietly wonder where the spark went.

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