The last time I made love with my boyfriend Jack, I found out that I can experience the most incredible sex if I just come right out and tell him what I like. In the past, I’ve been inhibited about that. For some reason I had a hard time expressing my desires. Somewhere inside, I felt like I should just let him do what he wanted, and that if I was specific about how I like certain things – how fast, how slow, which position, or the exact area of my clit that felt best – I would seem too experienced and it might put him off. When I got over that, and realized that every woman deserves to know her own body – and know it well - the next step was getting up the nerve to communicate about it with Jack.
He had come over to my place to chill out and watch movies. It was raining and cold outside, so I heated the house to a toasty but comfortable temperature. I tossed some big soft pillows on the floor in front of the sofa, lit candles all around the room and turned down the lights. We were going to watch my favorite movie, “Love Actually”, and I wanted to set a romantic mood.
When the doorbell rang, I greeted Jack with a big hug, pulling him inside out of the wet weather. He gave me a lovely kiss. The DVD player had the disc in, ready to go, and Jack had brought over beer and caramel popcorn – my favorite!
He plopped down on the pillows and leaned back against the sofa, and I wedged myself in front of him so we could cuddle. I like to have my legs rubbed, so I took Jack’s hand and rubbed it along my thigh. Jack took the hint and began to caress me gently. His hands were warm and it felt so relaxing. We kissed, and I sucked on his lower lip before letting it end. That led to another kiss and another kiss. The movie was going to have to wait!
Jack likes to explore my body and I love it when he does. We stroked and hugged each other, and slowly undressed. It was cold outside but we were comfortably warm in each other’s arms. Jack took his time kissing me and worked his way down my body. His tongue circled my nipples until they stood straight up, and then he nipped at them with his teeth. I love when he does that to me, and I told him so, lying back with one arm behind my head, leaving my body open for him to savor. It put me in a good position to watch him as he traveled around my body with his mouth, tongue and hands. I’m very visual, and the sight of him toying with me like that turned me on even more.
I like the way he starts at the top of my body and slides down, nibbling, sucking and kissing my breasts, abdomen and thighs. It feels so good, and watching him do it makes me even hotter. When he crawls down between my legs, I reach down and rub his hair or arms. He likes to take his time nuzzling and caressing my pussy.
He slowly made his way back up to my breasts. I arched my back so they would stick out, and he immediately took a nipple into his mouth and gently sucked. I told him my other nipple was feeling left out, so he took turns moving back and forth between them. It felt great. I told him how good it felt, and he smiled, happy that I liked what he was doing.
I felt really relaxed and quietly said, “I like a variety best, baby, a little bit hard and a little soft.” Jack responded by caressing my body gently, from my chest to my thighs, then tweaking my nibbles a bit harder than usual. I flinched, but it felt great! Then he circled my nipples between his fingers. He never stopped stroking me, even when he looked up to see my response. My smile told him I was definitely enjoying it.
“Kiss me up and down my body again,” I said. “I love that.” He immediately slid down my body - planting sweet kisses all the way to my abdomen, then my inner thighs and on to my knees. When he started to work his way back up my body, I told him I liked the way his kisses tickled my knees, so he kissed them more. I sighed to let him know how much pleasure he was giving me.
The more I told him what I liked, the more he enjoyed himself and the more excited he was about making love. He wanted to do me exactly how I wanted it. He was so aroused now that he dived between my legs, licking and sucking. I touched his shoulder and asked if he’d give a little attention to the outside of my thighs, because that’s such a sensitive area for me. Ready to please, he slowly moved around and kissed me there just the way I like it. It gave me chills. Then he moved over so he could get back to my clit. I asked him to use a bit of a lighter touch, and he did just what I told him. I could feel the difference immediately. It felt amazing and I told him, “That’s good, baby, just like that.”
Jack was eager to please me; he was really into it. I guess it made me greedy, because I wanted more! I took his hand and put it on my muff, pushing his finger toward my opening. He knew exactly what that meant, and slid his finger in and out while he was still nibbling and sucking my clit. That felt incredible!
He thrust his finger in and out of me, faster and faster, while he worked my clit with his tongue. Suddenly, I was over the top! My body jerked and quivered. Jack didn’t even come up for air; he just kept licking me as I moaned and held my breath. I had an amazing orgasm. As the last wave of spasms shook me, I was still shoving Jack’s head against my muff.
After I climaxed my body went completely limp. Jack crawled up next to me and gathered me in a soft embrace. “Damn that was good!” he said. I nodded and smiled. It was great being able to tell my guy exactly what felt best to me, and knowing that it made him enjoy himself more too.
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Sex doesn’t always have to be serious. Most women say they want a man who is playful and has a good sense of humor, and that can carry over into the bedroom. Nothing’s better than being in a relationship where sex is fun.
“I believe in laughing in the bedroom.”
“I like a sense of humor. I like warmth and intelligence. And generally, somebody who likes to cuddle.”
“I like if they have a quick wit. Of course, they need a serious side as well, but a humorous side is a turn-on for me.”
“To me, the two most important things are kindness, meaning a kind-hearted person, and a sense of humor.”
Being playful about sex can take many different forms. Brenda found out that breakfast was definitely the most important meal of the day when her husband Keith decided to spice it up in a very special way.